Join us for Cupcakes and Beer! 
Cupcakes and Beer is an event to celebrate CADA's 40th birthday and to raise money for the next 40 years and beyond! This first-of-its-kind fundraising event will take place on Thursday, November 7th from 6:30pm – 8:30pm at Mankato Brewery. Guests will enjoy four delectable custom cupcakes prepared by Diamond Dust Bakery & Coffee Shop paired with four authentic beers from local favorite, Mankato Brewery. 

We are currently looking for businesses, individuals, or families who are interested in sponsoring the event. Click here to check out the sponsorship opportunities! 

Funds raised will help ensure CADA continues to offer life-saving and life-changing programs and services to victims and survivors in our community. We are interested in forming long-lasting relationships with sponsors as we work toward our mission – providing safety and support to victims of domestic and sexual violence through education, advocacy, and shelter. 

To set up your sponsorship, contact Kristen at: kristenw@cadamn.org.
Get Involved & Volunteer! 

Maintenance Volunteers - CADA is currently looking for some maintenance volunteers! Our building always needs a little TLC and we have opportunities for groups interested in helping out one time or ongoing opportunities for individuals.  

Childcare Volunteers - CADA is currently looking for childcare volunteers to spend time with children of all ages during our Tuesday evening domestic violence support group. Support group runs from Tuesday, July 22nd until Tuesday, September 23rd. Volunteers needed from 5:15pm – 7:15pm every Tuesday.

Crisis Call-Out Volunteers - Are you interested in building your resume or growing your advocacy skills? We are currently looking for empathetic and compassionate people to join our team of crisis call-out volunteers. Call-out volunteers pick their own evening and weekend shifts. Volunteers respond to hospitals or law enforcement centers to provide support and information to victims of sexual assault. Completion of CADA's 40-Hour Sexual Assault Advocacy Certification Training is required – the next training takes place on August 17th, 18th, 24th and 25th.

County Fair Volunteers – We are looking for some volunteers who would like to represent CADA at tables and booths at county fairs this summer! CADA staff and advocates would train volunteers on information about the organization and frequently asked questions so you’re prepared to speak with confidence about the agency!
Donor Spotlight: Jessica Hatanpa

Jessica Hatanpa may just be one of the busiest people around. She has worked at Hatanpa Insurance Agency – State Farm for 13 years as a licensed agent. She is a current board member of the Educare Foundation, Junior Achievement, Greater Mankato Growth and the Regional Economic Development Authority. Jessica assists with events and fundraising for the Children's Museum of Southern Minnesota and the Jefferson Elementary PTO. In January, Jessica began her four year term on the Mankato City Council representing Ward Five. Jessica is committed to making her community a better place for all. One of the many ways she does this is by supporting CADA and the women and children in shelter.  

Jessica's involvement with CADA began when she was in her youngest daughter's classroom volunteering (Seriously, how does she have the time?). As she got to know the children and parents in the classroom, she found out they were living at CADA's shelter with their mothers. Some of the children she got to know had been to two or three schools already that year. She saw that these children were facing some unique challenges because of the ways violence at home had disrupted all aspects of their life, including their school life.  

Jessica asked herself, "How can I make this child’s life better? How can I make mom's life a little better or easier so she can have the energy to make her child’s life better?"

Jessica connected with Debi, CADA's Child and Family Advocate, to see where she and her family could lend a hand. Since then, Jessica has donated to CADA's Adopt-a-Family Holiday program, she has donated children's bicycles, and shopped for new clothes for families who are new to shelter. She even supported CADA in a vote to receive a $3,000 gift from the Women’s Giving Circle earlier this year.

Jessica invites her family and friends to join in giving. She involves her children in giving by giving them the option to donate some of their birthday or Christmas gifts to children in CADA's shelter. Her children have also helped her shop for families who are new to shelter. They enjoy picking out clothing or items they think other kids will like.  

Jessica recently put out a call on Facebook to see who would be willing to help donate money so CADA could purchase YMCA memberships for the families residing in shelter. Within a few minutes, Jessica and her friends had gathered enough money to pay for YMCA memberships for a full year! Now, women and children staying in shelter have an opportunity to connect with the community and nourish their bodies and spirits.

Jessica says, "I see the families who are affected by violence. Many are new to our community with little money or possessions.  If I can help, even a little bit, to improve the lives of these mothers and children, then I will."

We are so grateful to Jessica and supporters like her. She has helped provide basic needs and wish list items for many families. Through giving, Jessica has made families staying in shelter feel welcome in the Mankato community. Through giving, she has allowed mothers and children to feel less alone.
United Way Week of Action
 
Thank you to Staloch Group Northwestern Mutual for joining Greater Mankato Area United Way Week of Action! This wonderful group of volunteers helped paint and touch-up the hallways in shelter. 
Supporting a Loved One Through Abuse

Click here to read this full article in the July issue of River Valley Woman! 

Chances are you know someone who is in an abusive relationship; it could be your friend from college, your co-worker, your cousin, or your daughter. One in four women and one in nine men will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. In 2018 alone, Committee Against Domestic Abuse (CADA) served over 2,000 victims and survivors of domestic and sexual violence. Advocates at CADA often get asked how someone can help support their friend or loved one who is in an abusive relationship.

When a friend or loved one is in an abusive relationship, oftentimes our first instinct is to urge them to leave and get out. Other initial instincts might be to want to involve law enforcement or to present your loved one with an ultimatum. When you ask, “Why don’t you just leave,” your loved one might hear, “I know what’s best.” When you suggest involving the police, they may be scared because they don’t want their partner to get in trouble or lose their job. When you say, “I can’t talk to you if you stay with him,” they may see another support person disappearing from their life.

Abuse is about power and control, so it is important to offer support in a way that empowers your friend or loved one to make their own decisions. Here are some ways you can help:

Express your concern in a non-judgmental manner
One way to start the non-judgmental conversation is to share things you’ve noticed and express concern. You could say, “I noticed your partner says mean things to you in front of others. I wonder how they talk to you when we’re not around. Is there anything you want to talk about?”

Listen and support their decisions
It is important to meet your loved one where they are at, listen openly, and support their decisions. You can continue to express concern in a non-judgmental manner, but ultimately their choices should be respected.

Combat self-blame
Many victims and survivors will blame themselves for abuse, for not leaving sooner, or for not seeing warning signs. This blame is often mirrored by their abusive partner. One powerful message you can give is, “this is not your fault.”

Share information about services
You can direct your loved one to a local advocate or victim service agency like CADA. Trained advocates can provide emotional support, safety planning, and discuss options with a victim. Advocates can walk with the victim every step of the way and refer to other services that might be appropriate for the person’s unique situation.

Having a support system is important to a victim’s safety. It is crucial for victims to know that they’re not alone and there are people who will help them.

You can now check out articles from CADA each month in
River Valley Woman!
June Children's Activities 
Children staying in shelter got to play Knockerball at the North Mankato Taylor Library this month. This day was full of laughter and fun for children and staff alike!
Families in shelter have been tending to the community garden CADA shares with United Church of Christ. 
Thanks to all those who donated gardening supplies! 
Children in shelter had the opportunity to attend a local high school summer league hockey game in June. Kids learned about how the ice stays frozen in the summer and what a “Zamboni” is. They also learned about good sportsmanship and how to cheer on their team!
A local volunteer came to CADA to teach a sewing class to the shelter residents. Children and adults made some pretty cool projects, including some beautiful headbands! 
Children in shelter went to a canvas painting class at the North Mankato Taylor Library. They created some beautiful glow-in-the-dark galaxy paintings!

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Blue Earth County: 507-625-8688
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